My name is Heather and this is my story so far. Back in the 90's i was a happy go lucky Canadian girl travelling the world. I met my future Dutch husband on the border of Belize and Mexico and 2 weeks later ended up living with him in Amsterdam. In 1995 we had a child together. We then got married and had another boy in 1996. After the birth of our second child things changed. My ex started getting controlling, abusive and ended up having a secret cocaine addiction and psychiatric problems. Everything fell apart. I tried staying with him because of the boys but in 2003 it got unbearable and i left him.Since then my life has been hell. He has been stalking me,has assaulted me in front of my child and the worst has parentally alienated my oldest boy (11) from me. My ex is a sociopath and will go to no ends to try to destroy me and force me to go back to Canada without the boys. We have joint custody which is not working. He has taken everything away from me except my youngest child. My youngest is really sick of the situation and sick of his father always talking badly about me. My ex even went to far with my oldest to go to the police station and put false accusation that i strangled him. I never touched him and i was in shock that the police never contacted me or anything. I went to the police station because my ex attacked me and tried to push me in front of a moving car in front of the youngest. Whenever i went to the police they never believed me because of the strangling accusation which is based on nothing.My ex has turned the oldest boy against me and because i am limited financially i can't get a lawyer yet to fight him in court. He is mentally abusing my child and i don't know what to do. I have been to every institution here in Amsterdam and nobody recognizes that PAS is a severe form of child abuse. Please is there anyone out there who has experienced this?? I need some help and support. It 's like i am living in a bad movie only the movie never ends and i am so scared that my child will be scarred for life unless he gets some help. His father needs help too and doesn't deserve to parent the boys like this. Please help us.
Heather
